This Sex Position Reliably Gets Women Off
All good things in life can use some improvements, this includes your go-to bedroom moves.
You and your partner might count the classic missionary position as one of your favorites because of the intimacy it provides. However, sex therapists say that one small tweak can turn it from good to excellent!
The modified version of missionary position is called “coital alignment technique,” aka CAT. Here’s how it goes: the man rides a bit higher, sliding his body up about one or two inches so that the base of his penis rubs against the woman’s clitoris.
Here is a little visual aid:
The “coital alignment technique,” aka CAT. Illustration by Isabella Carapella
In a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who couldn’t have an orgasm from missionary sex reported a 56% increase in their orgasm frequency when started doing the CAT position.
CAT is a game-changer as most women need clitoral stimulation to get off, according to the New York City-based psychologist and sex therapistMegan Fleming. Penetration alone does not always do the trick.
“Roughly two-thirds of women don’t have an orgasm with penetration alone,” Fleming told HuffPost. “CAT offers direct pressure and rocking and grinding that gives women additional clitoral stimulation.”
Begin in the traditional missionary position with a small pillow under the woman’s hips, to give her some lift and support the pelvis angle.
“After you gently slide inside, shift your body up several inches, positioning yourself, so your pelvis is directly on top of hers,” she said. “You should be higher up on her now, with your chest near her shoulders versus face-to-face. With this new alignment, your penis shaft is now providing pleasurable friction against her vulva and clitoris with every stroke.”
To up the ante, put a little more effort into grinding, said Allison.
“While staying snug and pressed against her, grind and gyrate your pelvis in small circles against her vulva,” she said. “Try visualizing her clitoris as you press on it, and resist the temptation to lift off and thrust in and out. Just keep your penis snugly inside her, and find the rhythm she needs.”
“You’ll know it’s working when you feel her holding you tighter and pulling you closer with her legs!” Allison added.
There is a bonus for guys, too, apart from providing partners with intense pleasure, according to Lori Buckley, a sex therapist and author of 21 Decisions for Great Sex and A Happy Relationship.
“An extra benefit is that this may also help men last longer since they don’t experience the same heightened arousal that fast, deep thrusting provides,” Buckley said.
Win-win. Now let’s get busy.